As many of you may (or may not) know, my son just picked a university!!! Not without many visits, many explorations, etc. that go along with such an important decision.
Finally, we had it narrowed down to two schools. One has an incredible sports program, is more than 36 “driving” hours away from our house, and offered him an incredible scholarship. The second school (and my personal fav) offers an incredible Biomechanics (also sports med but more robotic) program, is only 5 hours away, and offered him an even better scholarship.
In the end, we told McKinley he was the one who was going to have to live with his decision and we would support either. So, the process began. I offered advice (as usual). My suggestion when choosing between one or more options is to “wear it.”
“To wear it” means that on the first day of the week, I “put on” my first option. Everything for that week lines up with that decision. Where are you going to school? Option #1. Have you picked a college yet? Yes! Option #1. Have you narrowed down your choice of schools? Yes! Option #1. I orchestrate my entire response based on Option #1. Everything that I contemplate for my future is based on Option #1, for one week.
Then comes week two. And I change things up a bit.
For week #2: Where are you going to school? Option #2. Have you picked a school yet? Yep, Option #2. I keep “living,” “wearing,” “supposing,” “concluding” that Option #2 is the answer to everything that is involved in my decision. Option #2 is my answer.
The goal is to see what fits. Does it feel “heavy?” Do I feel that this answer “weighs me down?” Do I have peace with this answer? I have learned that over time, I can get a sense of peace based on how I feel “yoked” to my answer.
If Option #1 feels heavy and cumbersome, then I take note. If it feels “unfitting,” I take note. For each week that I have made that determination, I look for the results. How do I feel saying it out loud? How does it feel as my future? Do I feel peace when Option #1 is my answer? If not, then I continue rotating my options until I feel peace.
Soon enough, I will be able to determine if my choices are a comfortable fit for me. If not, I cast them off. Each time I am wearing them, I am asking the Lord to yoke me with His best for me and my future.
You see, I’ve learned over time that He has a path for me (Jeremiah 33:11), but it’s my responsibility to search a matter out. Proverbs 16:9 shows us God puts a plan in a man’s heart, but God directs his steps. For me, I have discovered it’s best to “wear” a matter to see how it fits. When I’ve worn it long enough, I’ll know if it’s God’s best or not.
Thank God, McKinley is open to wearing his options instead of just flipping a coin. I’m looking forward to watching God’s best unfold for him, and the best part is that I don’t have to worry if he made the right choice. Go God and CONGRATS High Point University. You are gaining a great kid!!!
